come to terms with (something painful)
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- 1 come to terms with (something painful)、reconcile oneself to (a difficult reality)
- 2 brace oneself for、prepare oneself emotionally for
This verb describes emotionally adjusting to something painful or unwelcome, either by coming to terms with what has happened or by preparing yourself for what may happen.
come to terms with (something painful)、reconcile oneself to (a difficult reality)
To emotionally come to terms with a painful reality that cannot easily be changed.
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ฉันยังทำใจไม่ได้ chǎn yaŋ tham cay mây dâay I still can't come to terms with it. ฉันยังทำใจไม่ได้ details
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เขาต้องใช้เวลาทำใจ khǎw tɔ̂ŋ cháy weelaa tham cay He needs time to come to terms with it. เขาต้องใช้เวลาทำใจ details
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ค่อย ๆ ทำใจนะ khɔ̂y khɔ̂y tham cay ná Give yourself time to come to terms with it. ค่อย ๆ ทำใจนะ details
brace oneself for、prepare oneself emotionally for
To prepare yourself emotionally for a difficult or disappointing possibility.
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ทำใจไว้ก่อนนะ tham cay wáy kɔ̀ɔn ná Prepare yourself for it in advance. ทำใจไว้ก่อนนะ details
Learning notes
Explanation
ทำใจ combines ทำ, “to do or make,” with ใจ, “heart or mind.” Its underlying image is that of adjusting your emotional state to fit a situation you cannot readily change. It is especially common when talking about heartbreak, bereavement, failure, rejection, or loss. Unlike simply giving up on a goal, it focuses on the emotional process of accepting reality. ทำใจได้ means that someone can come to terms with something, while ทำใจไม่ได้ means that they cannot. ยังทำใจไม่ได้ often conveys “I still haven't come to terms with it.” The pattern ทำใจไว้ก่อน means to brace yourself in advance for an unwelcome possibility. It is a common, neutral expression in everyday Thai.
Usage
It is commonly used after emotionally difficult events such as a breakup, bereavement, rejection, failure, or loss. It can also be used before a potentially bad outcome—such as difficult medical news, an exam result, or a competitive decision—to tell someone to prepare emotionally. Speakers use it both to describe their own feelings and to comfort or warn others.
Caution
Do not use ทำใจ for ordinary thinking or decision-making. Also, ใจเย็น ๆ means “calm down” in response to immediate anger or agitation, whereas ทำใจ concerns the longer emotional process of adjusting to a painful reality. Telling a grieving person ทำใจเถอะ can sound dismissive, much like “just accept it.” ค่อย ๆ ทำใจนะ is gentler and allows the person time to process what happened.
Differences from similar words
1 come to terms with (something painful) synonyms
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ตัดใจ means to let go by cutting off hope or emotional attachment. ทำใจ instead emphasizes emotionally accepting a reality, without necessarily abandoning all attachment.
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ยอมรับ broadly means to accept or acknowledge a fact, opinion, or responsibility. ทำใจ focuses on the emotional process of coming to terms with something painful.
2 brace oneself for synonyms
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เตรียมใจ is a more neutral expression for preparing yourself mentally and can apply to positive or negative events. ทำใจ is more often used when bracing for an unwelcome outcome or unavoidable difficulty.